This article explores anger management counselling, domestic violence and how much interference is too much from your ex-wife. Deciding to divorce your abusive ex-wife to end the years of domestic violence and unhappiness, seems like the right thing to do to pursue happier journey of your life. Your separation and divorce may have been acrimonious but you feel finally elevated when you receive your decree absolute. You are hoping the decree absolute is your ticket to a fresh start, but don’t hold your breath as many divorcees find themselves embroiled in new post divorce battle.
THE NEW POST-DIVORCE BATTLE AND WHY YOUR EX MIGHT NEED ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELLING
The new post-divorce or separation battle could involve spending a big portion of your time trying to ward off the ex-wife perpetrator. The battle could involve a repeated legal family proceedings that are costly to clear your name in order to continue seeing your children. A repeated false allegations could involve poor parenting and abuse and could be a product of ex-partner’s resentment, financial threats or abuse, aggression and possibly an attempt to destroy your life, a revenge for destroying hers. It seems to be obvious that this post-divorce or post-separation hostile campaign is a harassment and by-product of the chronic and ongoing anger management issues and not in the interest of any child for caring and confident woman would never engage in this.
A LOVING AND CARING MOTHER WHO PRIORITISES WELFARE OF HER CHILD WILL PROTECT THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE FATHER OF HER CHILD, SOMEONE DRIVEN WITH REVENGE AND ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES WILL NOT
A loving and caring mother without aggression and anger management issues will abstain from post-divorce or separation domestic violence and will strive to seek a positive solution through a mediation or couples anger management counselling in order to protect the child to give the child the right to enjoy both: mum and dad.
POSSIBLE SIGNS OF ONGOING HARASSMENT THAT A LOVING CONSIDERATE EX-WIFE WOULD NOT DO
Typical examples of post-divorce harassment could involve:
- frequent and unnecessary calls to cause disruption and arguments to your new relationship
- false accusation of poor parenting
- setting up your child against you
- selfish and inconsiderate eleventh hour demands that will strain your new relationship
- DIY demands and unreasonable visits that she knows will upset your new relationship
- hiding your child’s passport to sabotage your holidays
- accumulating overdrafts in your joint bank account that you had forgotten to close down and that will sabotage your CRA file
This ongoing domestic violence campaign can lead to high-stress and anger and issues including domestic violence in the new relationship, therefore a good self-care, good self-awareness, tight and consistent boundaries, getting the right support on how to deal with anger management issues via anger management counselling and protection from harassment is the key in containing the situation and preventing it from escalating the ongoing domestic violence.