SEX WITHHOLDING IN LOVE RELATIONSHIP AND ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES
When it comes to love relationship one of the many reasons we commit to it, is that it comes with the perks of a regular sex or at least some sex and whatever that bodily exchange gives us, it is not surprising that a long-term sex withholding in love relationship can leave us with a serious anger management issues.
VARYING ANGER MANAGEMENT CAUSES AND SEX REJECTION ONE OF THEM
When people self-refer for anger management at Anger Therapy London, they present with different degrees of angry outbursts that vary from name calling, objects throwing or physical assault in love relationship. Some clients have a high-degree of self-awareness and know the causes of their angry outbursts and others arrive for the session clueless, numbed and blinded by the accumulation of years of chronic stress and conflict at home and it can be difficult to see what is exactly happening. Broadly speaking, the anger management love relationship cases are linked to having a poor communication style and a growing resentment turned into dissatisfaction with angry outburst and a lack of knowledge or skills for managing the conflicts, this could be frightening and overwhelming so it could be easier to avoid dealing with the primary issue altogether. Narrowly speaking, the domestic angry outbursts causes vary from person to person and I bet what you did not expect that a long-term sex withholding would one of them.
ARE YOU GASLIGHTING YOUR PARTNER OR DOES YOUR PARTNER HAVE ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES CAUSED BY SEXUAL REJECTION AND YOUR AVOIDANCE TO DISCUSS IT?
When clients arrive for the session ashamed and having been labelled by their partners for years as the perpetrator of domestic violence because of their domestic violence misdemeanors and with the expectation of being scolded by the therapist, they feel relieved to be met exactly with the opposite. The clients usually have excellent awareness of what is right or wrong, with a few exceptions so the sessions are more focused unravelling of the primary issue that maintains their angry outbursts. The clients are comfortably seated on a beige settee and finally feeling safe and free rather than disrespected or provoked into angry outbursts, they begin venting and unravelling their problems. This process can lead to a mental clarity and awakening moment, a realisation that the chronic anger management issues are linked to a pain of feeling chronically rejected sexually by the love partner.
LOVE IS CARING FOR EACH OTHERS NEEDS OR THE ETHICAL DILEMMA TO SEX OR NOT TO SEX IN FAILING MARRIAGE?
The tables are turned and the client might be left with ethical dilemma about the causes of their angry outbursts and their right to sex or not sex in a failing marriage, where they have been feeling ignored and gaslighted for years and where the issue of discussing the sex is absent has been conveniently avoided. The question remains who is really the perpetrator in a love relationship where love means caring for one another and where our sexual needs are ignored and sex is withheld? Is it the honest person who is fed with trying to fix the situation and develops angry outbursts and chronic anger issues expressed in a clumsy manner because of their pain of feeling chronically sexually rejected and devalued? Is it the silent passive aggressive partner who works hard to conceal the truth and is dismissive, keeps steering the focus of the discussion in different direction in order to avoid dealing with the sex issue and leaving the other partner feeling not cared for, is this obstructive and gradually driving the other partner into sexual pain and despair? Do we have a right to keep our partner hostage in a sexless love relationship or a marriage or do we let go because our avoidance to discuss the issue of sex is bigger than our courage to face it, fix it and so leaving our partner with serious anger management issues.