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‘You have helped me so much! Everyone says how much I have grown up and I don’t even get any more angry at things I got used to’
7 REASONS WHY TO DO ANGER MANAGEMENT WITH ME by Leona Sears, September 28, 2016
I am passionate and enthusiastic about working with anger and specifically anger management.
- I have an analytical and creative mind and every client will be treated uniquely. You will receive anger management techniques but I will also meticulously attend to your unique story to get to the bottom of your inflammable and difficult to manage anger.
- I write about anger and anger management and the stories are constructed from my personal, research, clinical and professional experiences.
- I have over fifteen years of combined clinical experiences derived from different clinical settings. I am formally qualified psychiatric and pediatric nurse, I have BSc in Psychology and I read for doctorate practitioner in counselling psychology and psychotherapy. I have been self-employed for over eight years working with angry and aggressive men and women assisting them in mastering their skills in anger management.
- I have always had tremendous interest in criminal profiling. I initially wanted to study MSc in Forensic Psychology, which is an analytical and investigative work studying violence that is for obvious reasons linked to anger management, but I decided to pursue doctorate practitioner course in counselling psychology and psychotherapy instead because I was told criminal profiling was difficult to get into. My interest in violence and forensic psychology continued and I carried out a qualitative research with seven traumatized people. I then wrote 48, 000 words doctorate thesis on anger and various aspects of it called ‘Support Experienced in Relation to Workplace Bullying’ which obviously included aspects of anger management.
- I continue to have a colossal interest in violence outside of my private practice and I tend to read relevant books and I watch documentaries. I have formed hypothesis by now related to chief causes of violence but I will discuss this in my next research 🙂 I am also interested in peoples’ attitudes towards violence including authorities and their coping strategies.
- I am self-employed, I avoid hiring any clerical support workers and I run exclusively my private practice and this adds that extra guarantee for maximum confidentiality if privacy is a key criterion for you and if you need anger management. I keep no electronic records.
16 INTERESTING POINTS ABOUT AGGRESSION Leona Sears, September 27, 2016
Available to read on sister site http://www.westminsterpsychotherapy.co.uk/blog-post-divorce-revamping-new-life/anger-management/
WHAT EXACTLY IS ANGER MANAGEMENT AND HOW DOES IT WORK?
Anger is controlled by the hypothalamus, and it protects and maintains our safety and integrity. The anger is not useful when expressed in a clumsy manner that could aggravate the tensed situation further. The goal of the counselling psychology in anger and aggression management and uncontrollable outbursts of anger is not a complete elimination of the anger, but an exploration of it’s causes and various ways how to express your anger in a more sophisticated manner and without causing any sort of harm neither to yourself nor to anyone else in your life.
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HOW ABUSED MEN REPORT THE SAME SYMPTOMS AFTER DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Although a lot has been said about abuse and domestic violence against women, not as much has been discussed with regards to domestic violence against men or abused men. Yet, abuse against men by women isn’t unusual. In fact, contrary to some assumptions, men who seek support for domestic violence report exactly the same feelings and experiences when attacked by women as women do and those include betrayal, confusion, feelings of hopelessness and helplessness, shame, depression or gradual breakdown of confidence. It is often the breakdown of confidence that tends to keep the abused men or women in abusive relationships and their lack of conflict resolution skills or the fear of using their anger constructively or potentially in a disordered or more harmful way. Also, whilst women have been historically comfortable in openly sharing their vulnerabilities with their friends, men, on the other hand, tend to hold it in, because of the perceived social and peer pressure to be strong and to be a man and this perceived societal pressure makes them more vulnerable to isolation and further mental health deterioration. Furthermore, with regards to domestic violence against men, the other issues on the societal level remains that women have been predominantly receiving more support with domestic violence and men have been assumed to be predominantly aggressive. So the assumption remains that when abused most men will know how to successfully defend themselves and will not get therefore easily abused by women. However, this assumption is wrong as the forensic psychology studies produce ample of aggressive women and female abusers and murders evidence. So if you are a man and are feeling abused by your partner and would like to develop a better conflict resolution skills in order to save your relationship do not hesitate to contact Leona for some support and to schedule your appointment, because the help to resolve your issue and restore your authority is here and you are not alone: 07 505 124 933.
SOME INSIGHTS ABOUT ABUSIVE OUTBURSTS OF ANGER IN FRIENDSHIPS
RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING ACCOMPANIED BY ANGER MANAGEMENT
When our relationship starts to continuously deviate from what we have been imagining it would look like and our needs have been chronically not met for a long time, we could start reacting to repeated dissatisfactions with damaging outbursts of anger or by feeling resentful and as the issues seem hopelessly irresolvable and we are becoming more and more dissatisfied we may start considering relationship counselling accompanied by anger management.
Relationship counselling accompanied by anger management is suitable for people who prefer the generous space of one-to-one session as well as for people who wish to attend the session as a couple. Both types of sessions have their own advantages and disadvantages. For example, the one-to-one therapy provides the client with more privacy and a greater room for exploring the issue. In contrast to that, the relationship counselling accompanied by anger management will undoubtedly lead to sharing of the session time between three people, which could be frustrating but will lead to a greater degree of data sharing by both clients and a greater degree of credibility. Please note, this is not to suggest that clients in one-to-one sessions are deliberately trying to conceal the truth but it would not be unusual for some clients who feel ashamed and assume they could be judged and rejected to do that, which of course professionally trained and competent therapist would know how to work with and should never judge! On balance, there are two sides to every story that could be unintentionally missed in one-to-one therapy but that could be the vital key to unravelling the jammed issue in your relationship. Not to mention, the most important driver in relationship counselling accompanied by anger management is the significance of the truth. Drawing on my past clinical experiences, the clients that were willing to and able to discuss the issue to the best of their knowledge made quicker improvements, compared to clients that took their time to gather a courage to share the profundity of their issues. To the extent that the truth and concealment of it in relationship counselling accompanied by anger management may exist, the therapeutic alliance is the key to how comfortable or unsafe the client could be prepared to share and progress, and the client’s pacing is chiefly respected.
I have discussed above the advantages and disadvantages of the one-to-one session and couple therapy with reference to relationship counselling accompanied by anger management. Once in the actual session, the goal of the relationship counselling accompanied by anger management will be clearly to provide the client or both clients with tailor-made solution focused strategies that should equip them with skills to control their unmanageable and inflammable anger but also with tools to manage other anger inducing and conflict arising situations. This is not where the work will end and in between behavioural experiments and assignments should test these strategies in practice and should reinforce the desired learning. However, it is not rare that learning a new communication style and putting these new skills to practice, could require a patience and time but you must remember that ‘most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all’ (Dale Carnegie). Additionally, our clients self-refer with a different type of anger issues and some might require a shorter-term therapy that could vary between two to six sessions and other clients may require a longer-term therapy for example twelve sessions. The length of the relationship counselling accompanied by anger management will depend on the complexity and the length of existence of the issue where the anger is a symptom of. Seeing that we have been thrown from our birth into the interrelated world which a deserted island it is not, it comes as no surprise at all that all presenting issues including unruly anger are co-created. For that reason, an important part of the session will be an exploration of collaboration, co-creation, maintenance, triggers of the disordered anger brought about by our loved ones, family members, colleagues, friends, our maladaptive beliefs or by our rigid chronic assumptions. In summary, as you can see the style of my relationship counselling accompanied by anger management is in the least lax but attentive caring in-depth service to support my clients in resolving their issues hence if you have enjoyed what you read and are in need of relationship counselling accompanied by anger management please do not hesitate to contact me, Leona Sears, to schedule your first appointment on 07 505 124 933.