PEOPLE WITH DYSLEXIA AND ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES
Anger Therapy London has been welcoming clients with anger management issues that included people with dyslexia and that referred because of anger management issues in relationships. The assessment of their past anger management issues has been revealing a relationship between feeling bullied and later developing anger management issues and school managements failing to provide them with a safe and healthy studying environment. Probably all clients described of being called ‘stupid’ in childhood by the teaching staff that seemed to have provided poor role-modelling for children who then copied the bullying. The consequence of this ignorant and bullying teaching style had a negative impact on dyslexic children’s moods, confidence and trust issues, it later aided development of anger management issues and caused havoc in peoples’ lives in the adulthood. One such example, is the case of client who I will call for the purpose of this article Rambo.
POOR TEACHING MANAGEMENT STYLE AND CONNECTION TO DEVELOPMENT OF ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES AMONG PEOPLE WITH DYSLEXIA
Rambo self-referred for anger management counselling to Anger Therapy London following a separation with his ex-wife and most recently with his ex-girlfriend. He described of having anger management issues for as long as he could remember, accompanied with controlling behaviour and being described as selfish and emotionally unavailable by both his ex-wife and most recently by his ex-girlfriend. Rambo said that he loved both women and that he desired to be wanted and he could not understand what drove these women away. The assessment revealed that when Rambo was a child, kids called him ‘stupid’, ‘tick’ and ‘idiot’ daily during playtimes. The large majority of the teachers, we aware that Rambo developed anger management issues but Rambo said that they were clueless as they failed to resolve the situation and instead saw Rambo as the problem. His mother reassured Rambo that he was not stupid but the daily injustice led to Rambo developing feelings of disrespect and repulsion towards people in authority. Rambo said that the lack of support from the teaching staff and the daily torment he had to go through led to him running away from the school from the age nine and hitting children that would stop the bullying. He described himself as short-tempered and getting into trouble because of his anger and he was suspended three times. Rambo described that a few teachers bullied him, but no one cared enough to understand what made Rambo angry.
FROM BULLIED KID WITH DYSLEXIA TO 18 POLICEMEN SWOOPING ON GANGSTER WITH ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES
Rambo described that the combination of being made feel bad and the disrespect towards authorities led to his decision to be bad all his life. Rambo would get into territorial gang fights, drinking and fighting that all climaxed in approximately seven court hearings for actual bodily harm and grievous bodily harm. He was getting always arrested and became secretive. One day, eighteen policemen with dogs and one helicopter swooped on Rambo for beating up in self-defence five men. It was then that Rambo realised he had to stop getting into trouble and sort his anger management issues. He described that joining army and pursuing mixed martial arts in his late 20s helped him channelling his aggression constructively but he failed to contain his anger management in romantic relationships.
INTIMACY AND ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES AMONG PEOPLE WITH DYSLEXIA
He described that being a child with dyslexia made him feel like an outsider and having the whole world going against Rambo left him feeling like he was on his own and that created trust issues, feelings of loneliness, difficulties sharing even emotionally and selfish behaviours, and control and anger management issues that included passive aggressive and aggressive behaviour such as flaring up when things would not go his way, revenge, emotional unavailability, insulting his ex-wife and his ex-girlfriend that drove both women away. If you are dyslexic, with anger management issues and have been affected by this article please do not hesitate to contact Leona Sears at Anger Therapy London directly on 07 505 124 933 if you would like to book an appointment.