IS IT NEVER TOO LATE FOR ANGER MANAGEMENT, DESPITE YOUR MARRIAGE BEING DEAD YEARS AGO?
I came to Anger Therapy London for anger management following a long-term arguments with
my ex-wife that escalated into years of gross mutual disrespect that slowly started eating our
marriage away. I hoped to manage my angry outbursts that were getting by now out of hand and
that began affecting the way I had been raising my kids. When I decided to start the anger therapy
sessions, little did I know that by this time it would have been many years ago too late to save my
I FELT CONSTRUCTIVELY DESERTED 18 YEARS INTO MY MARRIAGE WHEN MY SEX LIFE WAS REDUCED THREE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE ANNUALLY
I had been an angry man ever since I can remember, so when I started having ongoing conflict and
domestic violence issues it had been difficult for me to make sense out of what had been happening in my marriage and where it had all gone wrong. I met my wife when I was 24 years old, we would make love every day and this is what I imagined a love forever and ever would look like. Five years into the relationship and a year before I married her, our sex life began deteriorating. I found myself always initiating sex and she would never come onto me. I became aware that for the majority of
the time I felt rejected which left me feeling angry and I would stopped speaking to her.
Ten years later, what started off as a slow sexual deterioration had further progressed into us being
without a sex for at lest five months. I felt sexually frustrated and angry. I would snap a lot more, I
was not as understanding and I would overreact when children misbehaved. I would shout at them
for just little things that would not be an issue under normal circumstances. Everything became less bearable and more amplified. I would look for things to wind up my wife. If I knew she struggled to do something I would not help her. I started punishing her for withholding sex from me. This
became a counterproductive circle. The less I helped her, the less she wanted to have a sex with me.
My wife would then blame me for all the issues and said I should do more jobs around the house
because she felt tired. I would do the things she asked in the hope of restoring our sex life but she
still did not want to have sex. This deadlock and my anger went on for a quiet a few years until I
realised that being angry did not have any effect. I then started withdrawing and I stopped trying.
Later, my dismissed and unresolved angry feelings continued growing into chronic resentment and
ongoing passive aggressive and angry outbursts.
I KNEW MY MARRIAGE HAD TO END WHEN MY KIDS STARTED COPYING ME INSULTING MY WIFE
Eighteen years into our marriage, I proposed a couples counsellor but she refused. At that point I
decided to be in this marriage for the kids until they are old enough to understand why I would want
to leave their mum. I assumed I would stay in this marriage until they about sixteen years old.
Towards the end of the marriage, the pressure of the toxic misery became so overwhelming that I
struggled to contain it. I lacked any anger management and conflict resolution skills and instead I
started disrespecting her in-front of my kids who started copying me. This is when it hit me. Not
only I wasted eighteen years of my life but I realised I now started also being a poor role model for
my children, who may have been assuming this is how relationships would work. It was then, I
decided that this marriage must end. My wife pleaded she would change. She agreed to hands
holding, kissing, hugging but I felt dubious as she maintained throughout the marriage that she did
not like it. After this we had a sex one more time and after everything went back to square one. I
moved back into the spare room and six months later my wife and our children moved out. I was
more than happy with it.
HOW THE ANGER MANAGEMENT SESSIONS HELPED ME
The anger management sessions at Anger Therapy London helped me understand better how my
anger developed and what it is that I needed. I learnt that in the future I would insist on speaking to
somebody and seek support. I also realised the mistakes I made and I processed and resolved my
chronic anger. I learnt through those anger management sessions to trust myself more, be more
brave and never ever to commit to anyone I have doubts about again. I felt spiritually and sexually
deprived and not cared for most of my adult life but I am now filing for divorce because of
unreasonable behaviour and constructive desertion and I feel more free than I have ever felt. The
anger management sessions additionally helped me to find myself again instead of feeling
disillusioned about love, I feel so much happier, more confident and surprisingly someone very
special came into my life. Although, I acted too late in saving my marriage, the skills I now gained
through the anger management sessions put me in a good place to enable me to pursue and enjoy
everything I wanted, could not have and I can finally enjoy. If you feel affected by this article and
would like to received anger management sessions, please do not hesitate to contact Leona Sears at
Anger Therapy London directly on 07 505 124 933 to enquire about appointment.