SWEET LOVE, SHATTERED DREAMS AND UNMANAGEABLE ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES RESULTING IN USING CHILDREN AS A BAIT
Marriage, romantic relationships and family can be a source of sweet love but when dreams stop going our way, relationships can turn sour leaving us with anger management issues and loathing. In domestic violence where children and hatred are present, children can be used as assets by people with severe anger management issues to get the other partner to give into our needs or as a bait to teach our partner a lesson and to impose maximum damage on their lives and maximum gain in ours.A person on fire driven with anger management issues and revenge can turn to threats of filling for a divorce, plotting a plan of creating a false accusations of domestic abuse or threatening taking the child abroad if the other partner betrays and destroys the dreams or plans we had. These tactics show obvious anger management issues for a reasonable angry person would prioritise the child’s welfare.
LAW SEES BEST INTERESTS OF THE CHILD AT THE FOREFRONT
Relationship ending can be difficult and legal family proceedings costly, long-term and a source of ongoing conflict and anger management issues and a life-long misery to all family members involved. What does forensic psychological literature say about custody or abduction plans that angry parents are plotting? Wrightsman et al., 2005 found that courts favour joint custody, unless harmful to the child, in as many as 80% cases and courts aim to split the time equally between the two parents but parents retain legal decision making with respect to child’s education, health and welfare. Joint custody is perceived as panacea as children can maintain relationship with both parents (Wrightsman et al., 2005) and the best interests of the child at the forefront (Sales et al. 2001).
The Effects Joint of Custody on The Children
The research also found that joint custody helps children retain more realistic feelings about each parent and boys have fewer behavioural difficulties (Shiller, 1986). Children have difficulties shifting between two homes, felt overburdened (Repucci et al., 1982) and prefer joint custody and in single-custody children prefer more contact with the other parent (Luepnitz, 1982). Joint custody is prefered arrangement for the children but it does not reduce the level of antagonism between the two parents (Sales et al., 1992).
UNDYING ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES LEADING UP TO THE ABDUCTION
If you have undying desire and believe that you are above everyone and the law and plan to abduct your child, you might want to learn from the case of Fagan who kidnapped his two daughters and was fined with £81,443 and probation. The Hague convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abductions specified that one parent cannot take a child from the country of residence without agreement of the other parent or must apply for this via court of that country. If you feel affected by this article, have anger management issues relating to divorce, separation or custody and need to book a session for anger management classes or course in London to help you process your angry feelings or if you need a letter to prove that you have learnt how to manage your anger, you can do this by contacting Anger Therapy London by following this link.